Loneliness – is not being an ‘outcast’
When people talk about loneliness, it’s always assumed as his/her personal issue. “You should socialise more” or “You should get out more,” is usually what you hear. But loneliness doesn’t have to be something that’s so outright visible. It does not necessarily mean being an outcast. Like the late Hollywood actor Robin Williams said: “I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up alone, it’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people that make you feel all alone.” Loneliness need not just be characterized by a sense of “feeling left out”. It can be experienced in conjunction with feeling low or actually quite useless at the given moment. You don’t even know the exact reason or like few say: “I can’t put the finger on it.” Yes, you know your self-worth, and yes, you know about your talents /skills. You’ve been told about it a million times by your friends, family, colleagues. Heck, you know it yourself!
The dry days ?
But then, as I said, there are days that you just feel ‘MEH.’ I like to call them the ‘dry days’. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not referring to those dry days when alcohol isn’t available, no. I call them dry days because, just as the name suggests, these days seem dry and parched. Like how our skin stretches and wrinkles in that scorching weather. You feel all hot and bothered no matter what you do. These days don’t necessarily have anything particularly wrong about them. It’s like every other day but, you just realized how boring it actually is, just too monotonous. Like you’re missing the usual yet assumedly ‘thrilling’ buzz of life. Often, you just sit there, knowing you have a ton load of work/chores that needs to be done, but you just go: “Meh. What’s the point?” I feel all of us, trust me–no matter how happy we think or want others to believe our lives are-experience such dry days.
A make-believe life
Like uploading that new ‘awesome’ candid picture as your WhatsApp DP seems entirely pointless. Posting new stories on Instagram seems quite a waste of time or effort actually or having dinner at that new restaurant around the block seems unnecessary. Going out with your buds seems kind of exhausting. So yes, these dry days sprout up in between weeks of huge hungama and obstruct the smooth channel of perpetual peace and satisfaction in our day to day lives which we assume we get from the activities mentioned above.
But the problem of these dry days is that the ultimate end result is just unproductiveness and lowering of one’s self-esteem. These days plummet us to a new level of low, which makes us suddenly ask ourselves, what are we indeed doing with your life? This new level of low hinders our relationships to grow by upsetting our moods. Because you have no anchor to hold onto. There is no steadfast thing that you can go back to every time you hit a new low.
But what if I were to tell you that your loneliness doesn’t have to be your lifestyle, there is hope.
There is indeed a steadfast anchor that you can hold on to?
Hold on to the steadfast anchor
Yes. That anchor is Jesus Christ. He said in John 14:6(Bible): “I am the Way, the Truth and the Life,” He is the Lord of all creation and all things happen with His knowledge. He promises to give you strength and peace to get you through the darkest of moments or even the smallest of issues. In John 14:27, He said: “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.”
All you need to do is believe in Him and be willing to listen to Him. Believe that He came into this world 2,000 years ago and died on the cross for our sins. He rose on the 3rd day and ascended up to heaven. And when you believe and accept Him as your Lord and personal saviour, you become a child of God. As John3:16 says: “For God so loved the world that He gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.”
You may think how does or how will this help you in any way. But I just want to say this. All this while you have been trying all of this world’s solutions to relieve your mind of your worries and quite frankly, none of them helped much. Why don’t you -for a change- give Jesus Christ a try today?